Man Cave

 What is it?

Man caves have multiple purposes: they are a place to be alone, to be away from women and from female sensibilities, to indulge in hobbies, and to hang out with male friends. It is, loosely, a male-only space to retreat to watch sports matches, or play video games. According to psychiatrist and author Scott Haltzman, it is important for a man to have a place to call his own, referring to a male area to which to retreat. Rules are relaxed; it is a place where other people’s sensibilities about standards of cleanliness are not necessarily observed.

The Ultimate Man Cave!

In a sense, for married men, it is a way to recreate some of the space and freedom of their bachelor days since it was like a “pad” similar in feeling to a frat house game room or a college dorm room where people could come and go “as if they owned the place.” It is where a man doesn’t have to be on his best behavior, where no women are around, and where “no one is going to make you watch your p’s and q’s” and “no one is going to ask you to explain yourself”. Writer and handyman Sam Martin explained:

A simple matter of being all you can be

Men have had an identity problem since the women’s movement. They have tried to figure out who they’re supposed to be. For a while women wanted them to be more sensitive, so they were more sensitive. Then women wanted them to be manlier. One of the things I discovered is when men have their own manspace, what they put inside of it is really an expression of who they are. Manspace is about establishing an identity for a man. Our premise is that women have control of the look and the feel of the house and that left guys wanting more. Anybody who has a specific interest or hobby or work or collection is going to want a space to indulge that. —Sam Martin, in the Chicago Tribune, 2007

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Martin thinks that any space in the house will do, even a lounge chair and a set of headphones, provided there’s an agreement with one’s wife or girlfriend that the space is under the control of the man. The advantages of a self-contained room are that male-oriented design choices, such as “tacky lamps” and “beer-can sculptures”, are out of sight of women, but in a way, that doesn’t disturb female sensibilities since visitors generally don’t visit the man cave. It’s like a firehouse lounge room, but in or adjacent the home.

Some Personalization Ideas for Your Mancave

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2 Replies to “Man Cave”

  1. I guess almost every guy has a “man cave.” It’s just a great place to retreat to and get away from the stresses of life. Every guy has different ideas of what his cave is like. How you decorate it, what you keep in it as far as recreation. I think it’s a great idea and to each his own. Mine is just a small cave with nothing special, but it’s mine and I escape from the world!

    1. Hi Rob

      Before moving from Colorado and retiring to Arizona, I had the man cave of all man caves. It had 2.5 car garage for vehicles and storage, wood shop, hobby shop and a shop area for sandblasting. Miss that and the view of the surrounding mountains. Now, my new shop is a two-car garage. Have whittled man cave activities down to engraving with sandblasting and laser but, it is my world and I love it!


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